To All the Boys I’ve “Loved” Before: I Found Prince Charming—Farewell!
As my wedding approaches, I swear to you that just like Ebenezer Scrooge, I’ve been visited in my dreams from Ghosts of my past—but Ghosts of boyfriends past. And to be clear, I doubt these dreams are here to encourage repentance, rather they seem to just make me smile more when I wake up and realize how grateful I am for my soon to be husband. Yes, the dreams might draw a smile out of me, a laugh—maybe a sigh...but because of all of this I think it’s finally time to say goodbye.
So, to all you boys I’ve “loved” before, I want to write you a farewell message; because I simply don’t have room for you in my heart anymore...
To boyfriend number one, thank you for being the first boy I held hands with. Thank you for dumping me(over text) for a chance to get back with your first girlfriend. You taught me that I’m worth choosing first.
To boyfriend number two (whom I told I considered to be my first boyfriend), thank you for being my first kiss. Thanks for telling me how special you thought I was, even though I know better now. Thank you for dumping me without warning, right after school in the middle of a crowded hallway. That kind of humiliation/devastation never leaves a person's memory. You taught me that saying goodbye to someone you care about should never be easy.
And finally, to boyfriend number three, whom I thought was “the one”, thanks for everything else. Ultimately, thanks for being the one that forced me to decide what was important—what was nonnegotiable in love. You taught me that love is give and take—not one-sided.
Goodbye to you all, I truly wish you the best. Thanks for everything and for helping mold me in order to prepare me for whom I’d belong to best.
And to the Man I love now, to the only one for whom there is space in my heart—thank you for giving me a love that is true, and thank you for wanting to give it only to me for forever ❤️ You’re a blessing and a gift from God and I will forever treasure you.
Song of Solomon 3:4
I have found the one whom my soul loves
