Between each of my blogs I take serious time to take a look around. To notice issues that affect me, and affect those who are close to me.
These past two weeks or so I feel like I've been so distracted with fun and I've really neglected to write perhaps a much needed letter to many of you may actually read my humble little blog.
I have one thing in particular on my mind, and that's love.
I'm sorry, I know it feels like I always have the same-ish topic on mind. But that's what I have to give; pieces of myself that hopefully help others.
I'm sorry for this next part as it is painfully cliche, but I feel like I have to say it in defense of my very filtered character.
"I don't normally do this,"but I will share on an extreme level something very personal.
Once upon a time there was a very shy and insecure 16 year old named Ally. She swore that she sprayed boy repellent on everyday. Sometimes even people repellent.
And by some miracle...a very cute, somewhat shy boy showed insistent interest in her. Sometimes to the point where she felt very annoyed...(but that's another story)
She wasn't sure about all of this. It seemed very serious very fast. And to be honest--it was.
And so somewhere in there--Ally left herself behind, and made poor choices, that thankfully didn't completely alter her whole life.
I thought I was, "in love"
And I insisted upon myself that this was true. So much so that I let it go on for about 4 years.
I was convinced that this was it. That if I didn't accept what I'd been given, that I'd risk losing everything that I did have with this boy.
Sure, he was sweet--at times. He claimed he would do anything for me. And he did do most anything for me.
But it wasn't enough. "love" wasn't enough.
Because it wasn't love. Especially during the hard times in our relationship.
That's where I'll end my personal anecdote. Feel free to ask me about it personally, but that's all I feel should be said publicly.
The point is...
Love is not:
What someone does for you
How tightly someone holds onto you
Constant apologies
Love is not a lot of things. And I'm here to tell you something very important
Love does not exist without God. God is love.
That's what my relationship lacked. We say we cared about God, but he took a back seat anytime we made decisions that God wouldn't have condoned.
Without God, all you have is blind infatuation. God is commitment.
Some people ask "why get married? It's just a piece of paper"
Well, yes without God--it is just a piece of paper.
Real love and commitment only exist under God.
Please understand this. Please want this for yourself!
God is the only love you will ever need.
So do you think you're in love?
Are you in a relationship with someone who isn't willing to commit to God?
Where do you think your relationship is going? What does it really mean?
I'd like to challenge you: Should you enter into a relationship with only the hope of being an influence for them to come to Jesus?
1 John 4:8
"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love"
2 Corinthians 6:14
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"
It took me awhile to come to the realization that I didn't need a relationship to have love. All I needed was God.
I had to let go of the insecurity of never finding anything that was more.
God is more.
And as I am, I hope that you will trust God to find someone who is just for you.
Love, Ally.
These past two weeks or so I feel like I've been so distracted with fun and I've really neglected to write perhaps a much needed letter to many of you may actually read my humble little blog.
I have one thing in particular on my mind, and that's love.
I'm sorry, I know it feels like I always have the same-ish topic on mind. But that's what I have to give; pieces of myself that hopefully help others.
I'm sorry for this next part as it is painfully cliche, but I feel like I have to say it in defense of my very filtered character.
"I don't normally do this,"but I will share on an extreme level something very personal.
Once upon a time there was a very shy and insecure 16 year old named Ally. She swore that she sprayed boy repellent on everyday. Sometimes even people repellent.
And by some miracle...a very cute, somewhat shy boy showed insistent interest in her. Sometimes to the point where she felt very annoyed...(but that's another story)
She wasn't sure about all of this. It seemed very serious very fast. And to be honest--it was.
And so somewhere in there--Ally left herself behind, and made poor choices, that thankfully didn't completely alter her whole life.
I thought I was, "in love"
And I insisted upon myself that this was true. So much so that I let it go on for about 4 years.
I was convinced that this was it. That if I didn't accept what I'd been given, that I'd risk losing everything that I did have with this boy.
Sure, he was sweet--at times. He claimed he would do anything for me. And he did do most anything for me.
But it wasn't enough. "love" wasn't enough.
Because it wasn't love. Especially during the hard times in our relationship.
That's where I'll end my personal anecdote. Feel free to ask me about it personally, but that's all I feel should be said publicly.
The point is...
Love is not:
What someone does for you
How tightly someone holds onto you
Constant apologies
Love is not a lot of things. And I'm here to tell you something very important
Love does not exist without God. God is love.
That's what my relationship lacked. We say we cared about God, but he took a back seat anytime we made decisions that God wouldn't have condoned.
Without God, all you have is blind infatuation. God is commitment.
Some people ask "why get married? It's just a piece of paper"
Well, yes without God--it is just a piece of paper.
Real love and commitment only exist under God.
Please understand this. Please want this for yourself!
God is the only love you will ever need.
So do you think you're in love?
Are you in a relationship with someone who isn't willing to commit to God?
Where do you think your relationship is going? What does it really mean?
I'd like to challenge you: Should you enter into a relationship with only the hope of being an influence for them to come to Jesus?
1 John 4:8
"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love"
2 Corinthians 6:14
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"
It took me awhile to come to the realization that I didn't need a relationship to have love. All I needed was God.
I had to let go of the insecurity of never finding anything that was more.
God is more.
And as I am, I hope that you will trust God to find someone who is just for you.
Love, Ally.
Ally,
ReplyDeleteAs usual, I love this blog. Again, as per usual, what I needed. I have been so down based on the events that have been transpiring that I didn't sit back and really take a look at whether it was God centered or not. Thank you!